Holy Space
In the Book of Exodus we read that as the Holy Prophet Moses approached God in the Burning Bush on Mount Tabor, he was instructed to remove his sandals, “for the place on which [he stood was] holy ground” (Exodus 3:5). Later God also spoke to Moses, telling him, “And you shall be holy to Me, for I the Lord am holy, and have separated you from the peoples, that you should be Mine” (Leviticus 20:26).
God teaches us that we are not only to act a certain way while in His presence, but to become holy ourselves. This begins within the Church building itself where the Kingdom of God is proclaimed.
Civility In The Kingdom Of God
At the beginning of every Divine Liturgy, we hear the exclamation: “Blessed is the Kingdom of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit, now and ever and unto ages of ages!” It is made clear that we are no longer just standing in Church, but in the very Kingdom of God.
Within the Kingdom of God, there is a culture. Every culture has various behaviors – customs of civility – that are practiced by and expected of those who are living in it. There are also customs of civility in the Kingdom of God. The beautiful thing about the customs of civility in the Kingdom of God is that they are given more than just to help us all get along: These customs are given to make us holy.
Church Etiquette
So what does civility in the Kingdom of God look like, and how are we to behave? Here are a few guidelines that may be helpful.
Please know that no one who is sincerely seeking the Lord by coming to Church will be turned away. These guidelines are rather meant for those who want to know how to properly prepare themselves for standing in the Temple of God and are never to be used as opportunities to judge others.
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The following information are recommendations for attire, but the most important thing is that you come to church. Regardless of what you are wearing, you are welcome here.
When we come to Church it is with a repentant heart and the intention of encountering God in worship. Modest attire best suits this intention. Wearing clothes that draw attention to ourselves are the opposite of this intention, so all who come should keep this in mind before attending.
For Everyone:
Overall, dress modestly. It is generally understood that shorts, t-shirts, clothing with any kind of writing or images on it, and see-through or tight-fitting clothing are not befitting church attendance. If you’re going somewhere after church where you need to dress casually, you are welcome to bring those clothes with you and use the restroom to change after the service.
Hats of any kind ought to be removed when entering the Church.
How this Helps Us Become Holy
Selfies on social media, accomplishments on LinkedIn – we live in a world of self-centeredness. But when entering the Church we immediately encounter The Other. Dressing appropriately for this encounter helps remind us of the reality that we are not the center of the universe, and this places us in the correct relationship to God.
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The Orthodox Divine Liturgy begins when the priest exclaims, “Blessed is the Kingdom of the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit.” We need to arrive early enough to receive this blessing. It is always appropriate to arrive in a timely manner, before the service begins. Doing so gives one time to get settled, to acclimate to the surroundings, and to prepare to offer oneself wholly in prayer. Knowing where to find a place is fairly simple as a guest – just pick a spot on one of the benches.
While arriving late is better than never, it shouldn’t be done without a good reason. Arriving late causes distraction and is inconsiderate to the rest of the faithful, to the priest, and to God. The same can be said for leaving early. Coming to Orthros service before the Divine Liturgy will ensure that you are settled in plenty of time to pray without distraction.
Please follow the directions of the ushers for how to exit the church.
On Sundays, please be sure to stay for our Social Hour after Liturgy!
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The Light of Christ illumines all!
One of the first things you may notice when entering an Orthodox Church is a sandbox full of lit candles. We see people making an offering, taking the candle, lighting it, saying a prayer and placing the candle in the sand. So what is this all about?
Christ said, “I am the light of the world; he who follows me will not walk in darkness, but will have the light of life.” (John 8:12) Jesus Christ is that light. He is the light that shines for us in the midst this world of darkness. And anyone who follows Him needs not fear that darkness because we know that Christ will always shine for us, leading us in the Way to the Father. Each time we light a candle, we are called to remember that it is our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ who is the True Light and that He – and only He – will grant us True Life.
How this Helps Us to Become Holy
Every candle that we light should be a time of prayer in which we reflect upon the salvation that the Lord has worked for us and also a time of recommitment, where we renew our Baptismal vow that we, as children of God, are called to “Let our light so shine before men, that they may see [our] good works and give glory to [our] Father who is in Heaven.” (Matt. 5:16)
In lighting our candles, the first thing we should do is make an offering for this candle. Everything that we have is from God and our first step is to offer back to Him for all of His many blessings. While we have a suggested donation amount listed by the candles, how much we give should be left to each person and their ability to offer. After making an offering, next we can venerate the icons that guard the sandbox and lift our prayers to God on high. Next, we can light the candle, remembering all of our loved ones who are sick or who have passed into the next life, or who we want to pray for, and ask God to have mercy on them.
Lastly, as we place the candle in the sand, we can quietly say “Lord have mercy,” repenting for our own fallenness, while at the same time “re-igniting” our own flame and recommitting our whole life to God. Thus we begin again to live as light, helping others see the Way in a world of darkness.
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“Let us stand aright! Let us stand with fear! Let us attend!”
The traditional posture for prayer and worship in the Orthodox Church is standing. In “Orthodox countries” there are usually no pews in the churches. We at Annunciation do have pews, but we encourage you to sit only when you need a rest.
Knowing when to sit, stand, kneel, or bow, is fairly simple – just take a look around you and follow what others are doing. The only time this is not appropriate would be if you are not an Orthodox Christian and everyone else is getting in line for Holy Communion.
If you need to sit during the Divine Liturgy, please remember to stand at these times:
When the Liturgy begins and the priest gives the blessing
During the Little and Great Entrances
When the priest is censing the icons and the faithful
During the Gospel reading
At the Anaphora (the consecration of the Eucharist)
For Holy Communion
At the final Blessing
Whenever a bishop is visiting, out of respect we follow his example and stand and sit when he does.
When sitting, please do not cross your legs.
A Brief Explanation
To stand before God and His holy saints during the church services is the proper posture for the faithful. It is hard work, the work of and for the people – liturgy (λειτουργία) – as it takes energy and strength to stand for any amount of time. But consider this: Does a servant sit before his master? As we are all servants of the Lord Jesus Christ, the one seated on the throne of glory, we stand, worshipping Him.
The entire life of an Orthodox Christian, according to the Scriptures should be one of continuous Spiritual uprightness and attentiveness toward God. The Apostle Paul says: “Watch ye, stand fast in the faith” (I Corinthians 16:13); “Stand, therefore, having your loins girt about with truth” (Ephesians 6:14); “Stand fast in the Lord, my dearly beloved” (Philippians 4:1).
How this Helps us Become Holy
If a Christian must always be standing on guard spiritually, then even more so should one stand physically during the divine services which serve as an expression and an example for our lives. For, if the spirit of the one praying strives toward the Highest, will it not also lift up the body which is subject to it?
Standing during church services also helps us to be humble servants, ready, attentive and willing to serve God. The faithful, standing and becoming fatigued during services, become offerings to God, as the Apostle says: “Present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service” (Romans 12:1).
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Greet one another with a holy kiss. (Romans 16:16)
Orthodoxy is an Eastern Religion, coming from countries of the Mediterranean and Middle East. In these cultures, it is common to greet one another, especially those we love, with a kiss. In the same way, we greet the images of the saints (known as icons) with a bow and kiss.
The Orthodox Church teaches that it is proper to venerate (not worship) the holy icons as pronounced by the Seventh Ecumenical Council in Nicea in 787 A.D. The acceptable way to do this is to kiss either the hands or feet of Our Lord or of the saint depicted in the icon, or the scroll, the Gospel book, or the hand cross a saint is holding, Please do not wear lipstick when coming to church – we do lots of kissing and even the best lipstick does not hold up to being rubbed off on people and holy objects. Lipstick can also destroy hand-painted icons and metallic gilding.
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In our modern culture, we greet one another with a handshake. The exception to this is when we greet a member of the clergy. It’s not appropriate to shake a bishop’s or priest’s hand, but rather to and ask for a blessing and then kiss it with reverence. We kiss his hand because we are honoring Christ, whom he represents and from Whom we are receiving a blessing.
The proper way to do this is to approach the bishop or priest with right hand over left, palms facing up, and then bow while saying, “Master, bless” to the bishop, or “Father, bless” to the priest. If either places his hand in yours while blessing you, this is an appropriate time to kiss his hand.
Regarding how often to get a blessing from the bishop or priest, a good rule of thumb is upon first seeing them, then when saying goodbye.